Red Flags is a practical, compassionate, and insight-driven guide for anyone navigating relationships with intention and wisdom.
Drawing from years of professional practice as a Christian counselor, Board-Certified Mental Health Coach, and doctoral research on intimate partner violence, Dr. Oyindamola Okenla brings clarity to what is often ignored or misunderstood in relationships, the early warning signs that signal deeper issues beneath the surface.
 
This book walks you through psychological, emotional, behavioral, social, and relational red flags, helping you recognize unhealthy patterns before they escalate into trauma. You will learn how unresolved personal history, poor communication, emotional manipulation, and ignored warning signs can erode self-esteem and distort decision-making.
More than awareness, Red Flags equips you with practical tools for discernment, effective communication, seeking wise external perspectives, and creating personal safety plans. It also addresses the often-overlooked reality that many painful outcomes stem from conversations that were never had during courtship.
 
 
This is not a book rooted in fear.
It is rooted in wisdom, clarity, and self-respect.
Whether you are dating, engaged, married, healing from past relationships, or supporting others, Red Flags empowers you to make informed decisions and build healthy, respectful, and emotionally safe relationships.
 
👥 WHO THIS BOOK IS FOR
Singles and dating adults seeking clarity before commitment
Engaged couples preparing for marriage
Married individuals reassessing relationship health
Survivors of emotionally unhealthy or abusive relationships
Christian and faith-aligned readers seeking wisdom without denial
Counselors, coaches, pastors, and support leaders
Anyone who wants healthier, safer, more intentional relationships